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How to Defeat a Narcissist.
5 ways to manage a narcissistic person in your life.
If there is someone in your life who makes you feel terrible about yourself, whose mere existence has become the bane of your life, then you should consider whether they might have narcissist personality disorder. Some warning signs for this disorder are:
A sense of entitlement. Their needs trump those of other people.
Pompous or grandiose.
A habit of speaking in a tone of voice or using facial expressions that don’t match their words.
Thrives off diminishing the achievements or qualities of others, loves to talk down and belittle.
Critical of others while being extremely sensitive to real or perceived criticism or slights.
Extremely poor boundaries, does not respect the right to privacy or belongings of others.
They make you feel like you have to tiptoe around them and walk on eggshells.
People are becoming so aware of narcissism that we now even have World Narcissistic Abuse Day. Narcissistic people can ruin other people’s lives, either directly or by destroying their confidence, undermining their achievements and sabotaging their mental health.
When you are faced with a narcissist the prevailing advice is to get away from the person, asap. To get as far away as possible and never go back. Whilst this is very good advice, narcissism cannot be “cured”, it’s not always practical.
Here are some approaches to help you manage the narcissistic person in your life when walking away completely isn’t an option.
Stop doing their work for them.
Narcissists have a personality based on shame and feelings of inadequacy. If they can do the same to you they win. If they can’t, you win.
Learn to self-advocate and hold a positive view of yourself, flaws and all. This doesn’t mean being a Pollyanna or becoming arrogant, it just means that you are happy with who you are and the path you are on.
As an example, narcissists love to criticize the appearance of others as it’s such an easy target and works on most people. They may do this outright to your face…
